A little while ago I watched a movie called “A Man Called Peter”. I won’t go much into what the movie was about, but there was one part where his future wife spoke to a group of young people at a meeting. Her message really struck me. I was for femininity and I was against feminism, but the way she explained it really impacted me, and I hope it is eye opening for you.
In today’s culture there is a movement that women should be equal with men, that we can do things just as well or even better than men.
In a way this is true, all people whether male or female, nationality or position, are all equal. We are made in God’s image (Gen. 1:27) and all have the same value.
On whether we women can do things better than men… is true too. There are things that women are better at, like multi-tasking, child caring, etc., BUT this does not mean we are better or just as good as men in other positions.
A reason Christian women get trapped into this whole feminist movement is because it’s a half truth, and depending on your definition of what is “equal” and how we can do things “better” or “just the same” we could actually agree… BUT we can’t! The way the world and the feministic movement defines “equal” is different from what God says equal. They want “equal” to mean, there isn’t a difference between male and female, we should have the same role, do the same things– there’d be no separation whatsoever. This however is not Biblical. God made them “male and female” separate, different, not any one more special than the other.
Men are not more special to God than women. God choose a WOMAN to bring the Savior into the world!! How much greater blessing could God give to woman? He never gave something of that importance to men. He gave them a different role. One of leadership, responsibility and guidance. They ruled, they prophesied, they protected and provided for the women. This is a small example of what God is to us, what a great position for men to be placed in! One of a living, earthly example of God’s leadership and authority!
Men and women have different roles and they have different innate characteristics that pertain only to their sex.
God has a lot to say about women. He mentioned examples of godly virtuous women for us to follow after like Abigail, Esther, Ruth, Deborah etc. He also gives us specific commands on what we are to do and be like. Let’s dive into scripture!
Titus 2:3-5 The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
1 Peter 3:1-6 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
There is a lot in these two passages… and many more passages we could look at! There is another long list of a virtuous feminine women in Proverbs 31 that we won’t have time to look at now! :)
In Titus, God says that the elder women should be an example and live and upright holy life. This will allow them to teach the younger women (us) to be holy as well. Of course we aren’t married, so we can’t love our husbands and children, but we can still be sober, love our parents and siblings. God puts a little list of things He would like us to do in order not to blaspheme His name. That list is to be discreet (curbing one's desires and impulses, self-controlled, temperate), chaste (pure/modest), keepers at home, good, and obedient.
Again, since we aren’t married, we can’t be “in subjection” to our husbands, but we can be once we are married, if God wills that. For now we can be under the authority of our parents. Again the scriptures talk about being chaste and having the fear of the Lord.
Then God talks about our outward appearance. It doesn't not have to be showy or big, like what is promoted now in modern culture. It is to be the hidden secret in our heart, this in an ornament of a meek and quiet spirit. God values this as a great price in His sight.
He tells us also that this is how the women of the old testament adorned themselves. They were women who trusted in God, and are an example to us today. Again, they were in subjection to their husbands (our parents and other authority).
We as women are of same value to God as men. He is no respecter of persons. We are different, have different strengths and capabilities. That is totally ok! We need to let men be men, and we need to be feminine. Let them open doors, let them be gentlemen and you act like a lady. It’s not a contest of who is greater, God made them to be in charge to rule to command. We should not change God’s plan and purpose for men by wanting to be just like them.
